Week 22 Day 4 - 10 Things Every Dad Should Know

12:21pm

So much to do at work today. I have been there since 7am and just taking my first break now, 5 hours later. 

My wife called to inform me that there was a safety fatality at her work early this morning. She works in an office that has a large manufacturing plant connected. It was one of the workers in there. I am unsure of the full details, but she said it has been an emotional morning around there.

2:18pm

Unfortunately some more bad news to share today. My wife lost one of her cousins as well. Needless to say, this day is not going to well for her. Luckily she is a strong girl and can handle a lot of stress. 

Rest in Peace Bobby. 

5:05pm


Hmm, I wonder what's for dinner....  It's 83 and sunny out, maybe I can take her somewhere nice for dinner where we can sit outside and enjoy this weather along with a bite to eat.  I'm sure she'll like that, since she has been in an office all day and probably stressed out. The last thing on her mind is cooking.  We also have to get some groceries and things.  We were just sitting down talking and the baby was kicking like crazy.  I can actually see her belly move because she is becoming so strong with her kicks and nudges.  There is still so much to do before she comes and it doesn't seem like there is enough time in a day to get anything accomplished.  I know we still have some time, it would just be nice to have it all ready for her arrival.  Well, were going to eat now so more later.  Maybe there will be some updates even though I hate to ask her details of her day today.

10 Things Every Dad Should Know


1. You’ll sometimes think you made a huge mistake.
It’s normal every now and then to secretly wonder why you ever had a kid in the first place. Forgive yourself these occasional moments of self-doubt and, from time to time, let yourself mourn your pre-parenthood life. These moments will be short-lived.
2. Babies + Travel = Not the mess you’d expect.
Most people are intimidated by the idea of boarding a plane with an infant, but this is, in fact, the best time to hit the road. At three months old, a bottle or boob is all that's required to keep them entertained. They have few needs and fewer opinions, so there's no difference (for them) between Cozumel and Cleveland. Go get a tan while you still can.
3. Buy a rechargeable, cordless hand vacuum.
Much of your time will be spent getting things off the floor. At first, it will be all manner of bodily fluids, but soon enough, you're going to be dealing with everything from Cheerios to banana slices. Later, the list will grow to include things like glitter, dirt, forgotten bacon and pretty much anything that can be shredded by small hands. And the clunky upright is too annoying to drag out four times a day.
4. It's perfectly acceptable to make an entire dinner in the microwave. That’s it.
5. Act like a grown-up.
One of the most heartbreaking sights is that of a parent and their young child in a shouting match trying to see who can out-tantrum the other. Children are an endless source of joy, but only when they're not being an endless source of frustration. Breathe deeply and never let yourself escalate to the level of irrational fury that your little one occasionally inhabits. A two-year-old has the right to act like a child; you do not.
6. Accept all offers to babysit. Repeatedly.
There's a weird lag time between when a child is ready to be left with someone (which is pretty much once they can bottle-feed or go four hours between nursing) and when the parents are ready to leave them (which is often much later). Fatigue and frustration are cumulative, and you need a break long before you realize you need one. Your wife may (or may not) protest, but do your best to talk her into letting you take her out on a brief date. Everything looks more manageable and more joyful after a good meal and a glass of wine.
7. Hand-me-downs are more than okay.
Not only are secondhand baby things easier on the wallet and the environment, it’s a lot less agonizing when you find yourself on the fourth outfit of a craptastic kind of day (which, trust me, you will).
8. Make time for the other relationships in your life.
Not only is it important for your child to know there's more to the world than you catering to their every need, but you're also teaching them a very important lesson about what it means to have a full, loving life. Seeing you in the role of good friend or devoted spouse is a way for your kids to learn what it means to actually be a good friend or devoted spouse.
9. There's no such thing as using too many wipes.
There's no prize for using every last corner of a towelette, and it's shockingly difficult to get the smell of baby crap off your hands. At three cents per sheet, everybody's hygiene and gag reflex are well-served by the generous and preemptive use of wipes.
10. You're not the “backup parent.” You're a father.
You’re a full, equal partner in turning a small, fragile sack of fluid and bones into a loving, decent, healthy citizen of the Universe. Never let the fact that other people aren't sure what to do with a man between conception and Little League fool you into thinking that you're anything less than critical to every step of the process. Be informed, aggressively involved and as in love as you're capable of letting yourself be.

-JD ROBERTO